New guitar

I’m trying to get caught up on my blog.  I’m getting there piece by piece.  I need to stop and share this story, though.

Six to twelve months ago Nigel asked about switching over to guitar from piano.  We were okay with the idea and our piano teacher does both.  But there was that part about not having a guitar.  We HAD had two guitars at one point, but in our attempts to declutter over the years we had already gotten rid of them by the time Nigel expressed his interest. 

John had done some occasional searching on Craigslist and Amazon, but we never had peace to just jump on anything.

The idea moved more to the front-burner in the last few weeks and I decided to pray about it.  There were far more pressing things going on, however, and it was never a major focus. 

Then one Sunday at church, after Nigel was finished ushering for the day, Mr. Soanes (the head usher) asked Nigel out to his car.  It seems Mr. Soanes had asked Nigel in the past if he was interested in singing in the choir as Stewart does.  Nigel explained he’d like to play guitar.  Well, Mr. Soanes had a guitar at his house that no one was using.  And as I headed to the doors to exit the church that particular Sunday, my mouth dropped open as I saw Nigel walking back into the church with Mr. Soanes, with a guitar bag in his hand.

Really. 

And here is Nigel with his first guitar lesson with Nate.

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Do you remember the story about the drums?

Piranda

A friend of mine has an aunt and uncle (and cousins) who serve as missionaries in Romania.
From their website, Piranda.org
Piranda is a Romanian word that means “gypsy girl.” This word is unique in the fact that it isn’t derogatory. It actually is complementary giving the connotation of a beautiful and elegant girl. Although, most people generally do not use this word for the general Roma populations. We, however, at Piranda believe that God has created these people in his own image and beauty ,and they deserve to be given Dignity through an honest occupation, to be offered Hope for a better life now and an eternal Hope in Christ, and to be taught about the Faith that radically saves them from their sin.
This organization is currently selling shoes by going to churches and sharing the stories behind their mission.
They have three styles of shoes and I bought these ones.  Actually – I WON a pair… but I paid for them anyway and asked if I could just have a t-shirt for my “prize.” 
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I went to put them on this morning and check this out…. this is a sweater from my closet!  I bought it from a Scandinavian company quite a while back!
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HIs new suit. And Moms who slack off.

This is a cool story.
A few months ago Stewart got a new suit.
Nigel was also hoping for a suit.  He wanted to be an usher at church.  Even though we assured him he could do that even without a suit, he really did want one.  We’d occasionally look at Goodwill and find nothing.  The slam-dunk I’d had with finding Stewart’s new suit on Amazon for $30 was not happening.  Since he didn’t really NEED a new suit, it truly went to the back burner.
Well, when the warmer weather hit and I cleaned out the boys’ closet, I found a number of dress shirts that they had outgrown.  Some friends of ours also dress up for the services at their church.  They have three sons younger than our boys, and many church friends with sons, as well.  After work I dropped by their house with the bags of clothes and she off-handedly asked if Stewart needed a suit.  I shared we’d just found him one a few months ago, but mentioned Nigel wanted one.  She handed me two suits she’d just bought that day at the Ronald McDonald sale, and can you believe one of them fit Nigel like it was made for him!   He was tickled.  And despite the temperatures hovering around 90, he donned his new suit with joyfulness.  AND he secured a position on the Ushering team that same day.
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Isn’t he handsome?

Oh – and since it is Mother’s Day and all…. I got a new chair.  And they let me use it. 
After about 90 minutes of on and off heat-seeking (liberal sunscreen had been applied), the girls and I went to buy paint for their upcoming bedroom project!
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Singing Stew

I’m not sure which came first.
Stewart wanted to join the choir.
Stewart wanted a suit.

He got both.
The suit was a special gift from God.  After finding nothing that would work at Goodwill, and me not being willing to spend $80-150 on one, we’d all but given up.  Then, as I was walking out of Macy’s with him a thought popped in my head.  Amazon.
In about 3 minutes this was on the way to our house.  $33.  They only had one and it was his size.  Found it on the first hit.
Pretty cool. 
Thank you, Jesus.
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Once bitten, twice blessed.

Marie needed a tooth extraction for some time.  After a false start with a whack-a-doo dentist back in December, and an accidentally missed appointment in early January, we finally met our new dentist, and she had these teeth extracted.
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It was a difficult extraction.  But God’s hand was in this situation so clearly.  Although  our first dentist had gone absolutely bonkers on us, and we left his office in shock and dismay, we can now see that the whole strange and ugly situation was for GOOD.  This new dentist is a born-again Christian.  He shared his testimony with me, no less!  He and his assistant were so loving and gentle.  Marie had a hard time with the procedure.  But as we drove home and as she retold the story to friends and family, she kept saying that the doctor and helper were, “so kind.”
Do you see the size of those things?
Yowsers.

Our Ducky is ONE!

Katriel turned one with a tremendous amount of celebrating in our home.  We woke her with our family’s tradition of waking the birthday child with the birthday song.  I’ll try loading that later… YouTube doesn’t like me much these days…

Here she is in her birthday-girl outfit.  ♥ 

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And crown!

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She loved the balloons her brothers and sisters put on her chair.  We don’t think she’s ever seen them before. 

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She loved the presents tissue paper, bags, and tags. 

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She didn’t love the group shot…
(look at Johanna! ROFLOL)

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She LOVED being sung to…

And I’ve never met a Butler that didn’t like a cupcake. 

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She’s looking at that cupcake like I look at the last twelve months: “Where did it go?”
Praising God for His mercy and generosity.  Ducky is here.  She’s here and it’s okay. 

I’m hoping I can muster up the strength to share her birth story one of these days.

But even if I don’t, I’m sure to have some more photos of this awesome crew I get to do life with.

Redeeming February…

February is a weird month for me. It’s the shortest by a few days, but it comes at a point where we’ve been doing winter for three months or more. Our church stopped doing Winter VBS a few years ago. That used to help give us a boost to get through the last month of heavy winter. We don’t take off a week of school like public schools do. It just doesn’t make sense to us to do that. What would we do with ourselves? Visit area attractions that are teeming with other people who have the week off? Nah. We just push through.

The last few Februarys have offered some Hard Things to navigate. Too many dates pop up in my mind with sad recollections. Highs and lows too close together.  I’ve had some of my worst sicknesses in Februarys.  After months of GRAY these thoughts can threaten to spill over and engulf a fighting-not-to-hibernate-mind…

I’m trying to redeem February. I worked hard this month to notice the longer days and the sunlight warming the kitchen all the way through our dinner prep.  From where I sit in the dining room I watch the sun set behind the trees in field behind us.  I savor that beauty.  I count the cardinals and bunnies.  I thank God for the rich deposits of snow that will fill our water reserves for the year to come.  I praise Him for the solid walls that surround us, the municipal electric, the hot water heaters, and a closet full of clothes.  I thank Him that I don’t have to bundle up the kids day after day, and for making it possible for us to sit together on sun-drenched sofas and snuggle close as we read, “Understood Betsy,” “Emily’s Runaway Imagination,” “Rabbit Hill,” and “The Year of Miss Agnes.” 

And last year God gave us something special to be excited about in Februarys.  Our Ducky turns one in a few days.  I’ve enjoyed planning a party for her.  Actually, I just enjoy her and I am looking forward to celebrating the gift God gave us in giving her life with some of the many people who prayed her into our world.  It was a H.A.R.D. pregnancy and a vicious delivery.  Replaying the delivery over in my mind for months after her arrival kept me awake at night and took me to my knees over and over again.  And now, a year later, I still shake my head in awe of the One who knit her together. 

I’m grateful God gave us our Ducky.  I think He was so kind to send her to us in February. 

A (sadly) pictureless post of a day that brought great gladness.

For at least a handful of years I have seen emails requesting help with the food and gift distribution at the R Family Mission each December.  And for as many years I have not been able to help out.  John was able to one year, but it has never worked out for me to go.  Well, this year things just lined up.  My mom was willing and able to stay with the three younger girls.  And John was already scheduled to be off for the day that they were distributing this year.  So he, the older three kids, and I signed up to help out for a two hour window of time and I was so looking forward to seeing how God might use us.

We managed to get out of the house on time and using the address listed for the ministry we managed to get to their headquarters ahead of schedule.  The parking lot was all but empty.  But as we were pulling in, two other vehicles had also just pulled in.  One was a man with a big truck and another was an SUV with 5 members of the McQuaid hockey team.  We entered through the front door and found someone to direct us to the kitchen.  It didn’t quite look like what we expected.  A fairly quiet building with seemingly nothing much going on.  We found out that the truck needed to be unloaded.  So, just like in the olden days when people passed water buckets down and back a line to put out a fire, we all got into a line to unload the truck.  By passing, passing, passing them along, we helped unload about 100 hams.  Frozen hams.  Right from the back of the truck into the freezer.  After the meat was unloaded, John decided he’d best ask a few questions.  We were afraid we were in the wrong place.  John explained to the man who had driven the truck over what it was WE thought we were supposed to be doing.  Turns out that for this operation the RFM partnered with another local ministry and used THEIR building, about a mile away, for distribution.  “But,” the man said, “You aren’t in the wrong place at all.  God sent you here.”  And then we went back to work.  See, in addition to the ham, there were about 100 boxes of food that had to come off the truck.  So.  We stood in our line again.  Imagine a truck with it’s big door open.  Then imagine a young high school hockey player lifting a box off the piles and into the arms of another young high school hockey player.  Then imagine player 2 handing the package to player three, who then hands it off to player four.  Then player four hands the box to player five.  And player five hands the box off to Marie.  Marie.  My nine-year-old joy-filled little girl stood alongside boys twice her age (and adults 4-5 times her age) to unload 100 boxes for families in need.  The boxes went from her to me, to John, to Nigel, to a worker, to Stewart, to the last worker.  A nine-year-old girl.  Can you imagine Jesus’ smile that morning? 

Well, let me tell you about her smile.  The boxes weren’t exceedingly heavy.  They were a little awkward, but they weren’t full to the brim.  And they had food in them.  We like food.  And Marie started commenting on them after about the 40th box.  And she had me in stitches.  First there was, “Oooo! Mac and cheese.” And, “Oooo! Noodles.”  And, “Apples.”  Then, “Ah.  Something I’ve never seen before.”  Then after another two dozen boxes, she turns to me with the box and says, “One handed!”  After I burst out laughing, she then says, “No handed.”  John and I were dying.  All with a giddy smile and never missing a beat.  She didn’t drop a box.  (She and Stewart had both dropped a ham or two earlier.)  The boys were also pretty smiley.  They stood closer to the ministry workers and had some conversations as they piled these 100 boxes up and up and out and out over a reception area floor.

We finished with the truck emptying and then followed the two vehicles over to the distribution center to see what we could do there. 

There wasn’t much to be done.  We were given a job of breaking down unused boxes.  This was something we are good at – dismantling things.  We loaded the cardboard into a truck, too.  Then they asked us to pass out bags of extra produce to the people that were waiting for their boxes of food and the gift bags for the kids that were registered.  People eagerly accepted the bags of produce and it wasn’t long before the bags were gone.  There wasn’t much else for us to do, but we hung around a little longer.  I’m not sure we were terribly vital, or if the kids had any earth-shattering life experiences, but I sincerely enjoyed my rare opportunity to do “works”.  I know my prayers are just as important, but it does feel awesome to exercise my arms and legs for His work. too.

And it was SUPER awesome to see my kids involved, especially to see my 9-year-old daughter keep pace with those big hockey players. 

*sigh* I wish I had had my camera.

Easter Prep…

We could see on the calendar that Easter was coming.  But, you could not tell from what was going on in our house.  Besides the fact we still have Christmas decorations on the outside of the house that Easter decorations may have clashed with, the truth of the matter is I just did not have it in me to get out the Easter decorations. 

Since the arrival of our wonderful Katriel, we’ve been working to get ourselves back on track.  Those first few weeks and months of New Baby can be hard.  This time was no different.  🙂  She started out as a pretty good sleeper, even offering us one night of seven hours uninterrupted sleep!  Alas, that is not her regular thing (what do you want? she’s a newborn?).  But the week leading up to Easter was particularly difficult.  John and I averaged about 4.5 hours total sleep per night, broken into sections.  By about day 4 I was losing it and by day 5 (Easter) I was ready to crumble. 

But, now, this entry is getting off track.  What I WANT to share is how weird, yet flexible, our family is, and how AMAZING and GENEROUS our good, good God and is.  And how He uses His children to bless His children.

Point A.

Do you see what I see?  I see kids filling their own Easter eggs for an Easter egg hunt.  This is unprecedented.  And – can you believe this?  They loved doing it?  Here I’ve been doing the “good Mommy” thing and filling them on the sly.  Who knew they’d enjoy filling them themselves?  An added layer of fun? 

(Daddy was still expected to hide them.)

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Here’s the GOOD GOOD GOD part!

While our Easter gatherings have been random assemblies or invitations out over the years, one tradition has remained steadfast.  I normally cook some yummy food.  I love to cook; they love to eat.  It works well.

This year, I barely got left over pasta on the table the days leading up to Easter.  So – any plan for a delicious breakfast ran out the window by about Tuesday or Wednesday.  I still held out hope that I might be able to pull off a good dessert to go with whatever dinner we scrounged up.  But, come Saturday morning it was clear we not only didn’t have the time, or physical strength to pull off any extra confection creation… we didn’t even have the groceries! 

I’m being funny now, but really, I was very sad about this.  Now, I’m well aware of the hunger and poverty around the world and I’m not going to make too big a deal out of, “My poor kids don’t get special food this year.”  But, from an American-mom-who-likes-to-do-nice-things-for-her-kids point of view, I did feel badly that I had no yummy tricks up my sleeve.

But – God did!

Early Saturday morning a friend came by to deliver a gift, some items she thought we could use, AND some Panera bread treats that are SAFE for Stewart!  He was so pleased.  Now, I think she meant for them to be used on a weekday to help me out with breakfast, but when the kids saw the raisin bread and Danish ring I knew we’d use them as a special holiday breakfast!

 

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A few hours later other friends delivered the last new-baby-meal we were going to receive.  As I saw them walking to the house I almost cried.  Check THIS out.

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Easter dessert!  (To be enjoyed Easter Eve and Easter Day.)  Also – Stewart safe.

It didn’t matter that I was a sleep-deprived heel.  It turns out that God does care about little things, too.  Our friend G. signed up for the last day on purpose; she likes to help out a few weeks out when the novelty of things has worn off a bit and mom is still at her wit’s end.  AND – this time around it had to be Easter Eve. 

I love this. 

I’m so blessed.

Tab was beyond excited.  As she was born on Easter she considers it sort of her second special day. 

Look what I made not too many years ago…

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